First let's get an understanding of what a relationship is. Keep in mind that there are several types of relationships, but we are going to focus on the one between a woman and a man. To be in a relationship would mean that you and another person have an ongoing connection with one another. There is a mutual interest that is shared. Once that is established, the two people involved constantly put in time and effort to make the connection stronger. In time they develop respect and appreciation for one another and ultimately they fall in love.
If none of the description stated above fits your situation, then there is a good chance you're not in a relationship. More than like your just 'hooking up' or you're a friend with perks. Basically those two, hooking up or friends with perks, meaning that you are something to do when there is no one they truly want to be with at that time or the one they want to be with is interested in being with them. If you are looking for this person to be someone special to you, this is a warning sign that they may not.
Here are a few more warning signs that you are not the one:
• You only get calls after the club closes (2 a.m.)
• They never take you out in public
• When on the phone, they take another call and forget that you are waiting
• Their only conversation with you is about 'the perks'
• They're up front and tell you there is no future for you two
There are tons of other tell-tale signs that you are not the one. Don't overlook them hoping that they are going to change simply because you're hanging in there. Hanging in there is the exact reason why they won't change. Staying in a bad situation or one that is not yielding the results you're looking for, simply tells the other person that you are content with the current situation. The longer you stay, the further away you're putting yourself from the happiness you're seeking.
Relationships take hard work, patience and understanding. Those things cultivate as you spend quality time with one another. A bond is built when you face adversities together and conquer them.
Like anything else, when we really want something we go after it. Regardless of the obstacles that may be in the way, we find a way to overcome those obstacles. The same thing goes for relationships, if two people are truly interested in one another, they hurdle obstacles to be with that other person. When a person is not interested in you they either give you a bunch of excuses to keep the 'perks' going on but they never make a commitment to establish the relationship.